I asked my friend today what is love and how can you tell it is love vs infatuation. He said it's love if you are willing to keep working at the relationship even after the infatuation wears away. I know that is not a whole definition, but, I think maybe it has a little truth in it. They say infatuation rarely last longer than a year and in order for the relationship to work it has to be replaced by "true love".
God wants us to love others the way he loves us... Agape love. ( 1 Corinthians 13:1-13 ) It is impossible to love like God loves, He is perfect and forgiving in a way humans can never be. Oh, but if we could, right? I think we get glimpses of Gods love for us in our interactions with others.
Love is patient, kind, truthful, unselfish, trusting, believing, hopeful, and enduring. It is not jealous, boastful, arrogant, rude, selfish, or angry. True love never fails. This is the way God loves... I want that.
With that being said, I think you can love multiple people over a lifetime, but can love, man/woman love, be abused... hence the infatuation vs love.
